All Chapters

  • The System Failed

    Reflections on the inadequacies of New York’s therapist accountability system following a licensing board complaint. Despite substantial evidence, including recordings and falsified notes, the Office of the Professions found “insufficient evidence” for action. The chapter highlights systemic flaws, suggesting that the current framework fails to protect clients and allows harmful practitioners to remain licensed.

  • Aftermath: Harm and Recovery

    What happened after leaving Sam.

  • PS: The Apology I Wish I’d Gotten

    I wrote the apology I wish Sam had had the courage to write to me. (Warning, really long and totally theoretical.)

  • What I Know Now

    What I wish I knew that would have given me enough insight to protect myself from my therapist. What I think should change to keep therapists accountable to their patient’s mental health and to their ethical obligations.

Unlike a typical blog, this is written in chapter form. Start at the top and read posts downward to follow the story.

This is the story of how a female psychotherapist told me she loved me, a 53 year old professional male, causing a sever emotional breakdown and then reversing roles and treating me like I was her therapist. It includes recordings of sessions, contemporaneous emails, texts, and some of her notes, and a certain amount of theorizing. While all the facts here are absolutely true and corroborated, I do some layman’s theorizing about why she may have treated me the way she did.

This story is here to help others who may find themselves in, or sliding towards, a similar situation in the hopes that you can rescue yourself before you wind up where I did.