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Turns Out Sam Faked Her Notes
If you wondered about Sam’s honesty while I saw her, wait until you see what I discovered when my attorney requested her notes.
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PS: The Apology I Wish I’d Gotten
I wrote the apology I wish Sam had had the courage to write to me. (Warning, really long and totally theoretical.)
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Is Closure Real? An Examination of a Cultural Obsession
The concept of closure has evolved, misleadingly suggesting an external remedy for emotional pain after loss or trauma. While academic definitions focus on cognitive resolution, popular culture presents closure as an attainable goal through conversations or gestures. True healing lies in integrating experiences and accepting ambiguity rather than relying on others for closure.
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The Confidence Paradox: Why Therapists May Not Know How Effective They Really Are
Research indicates that therapists often overestimate their effectiveness, with many believing most clients improve, despite evidence showing typical deterioration rates of 5-10%. The more self-confident a therapist, the more blind to their clients’ deterioration they may be. This post sums up published research into therapists’ blind spots.
Unlike a typical blog, this is written in chapter form. Start at the top and read posts downward to follow the story.
This is the story of how a female psychotherapist told me she loved me, a 53 year old professional male, causing a sever emotional breakdown and then reversing roles and treating me like I was her therapist. It includes recordings of sessions, contemporaneous emails, texts, and some of her notes, and a certain amount of theorizing. While all the facts here are absolutely true and corroborated, I do some layman’s theorizing about why she may have treated me the way she did.
This story is here to help others who may find themselves in, or sliding towards, a similar situation in the hopes that you can rescue yourself before you wind up where I did.
Boundary Violations in Psychotherapy - A Personal Case Study 